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Priya Parker’s book The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters (2018) is a series of essays that provide guidance on how to organize effective gatherings as well as an argument for thinking about them as tools for social transformation. As someone who has been involved in facilitating groups, advising people, hosting podcasts, and dealing with conflict resolution issues since the 1990s, Parker brings a specialist’s insight to her topic. At the same time, she presents the book in a way that makes it practical and useful for everyone from business professionals to community leaders to friends who want to organize purposeful events. The Art of Gathering covers topics ranging from funerals to political summits; furthermore, it incorporates anecdotes from Parker’s own experience along with those of numerous experts working across various fields including business management, community organizing/activism/leadership development/civic engagement work (especially around racial justice), entertainment production/management/marketing (including TV shows like “The Biggest Loser” and “Project Runway”), politics at local levels as well as national ones—and more.

In this book, the author states that the most important element of a gathering is its purpose. A gathering can be described by what it’s for or what category it falls into, but its purpose should describe why this particular event is unique and unlike any other.

In the next chapter, Parker argues that we shouldn’t be as inclusive as possible. This is because when organizers choose a select group of guests/participants with care and intention, they’re able to engage meaningfully with the purpose of the gathering. Moreover, since those who don’t contribute to its purpose won’t be present at all, this also allows for greater effective diversity of voices within a gathering.

The author of the book, “Don’t Be a Chill Host” challenges another common belief. Rather than staying out of the way and letting people come together naturally, Parker says that it’s better to take an active role in leading gatherings. He calls this generous authority since you’re always helping your guests have a good time and upholding the purpose of your gathering. In the next chapter,”Create Temporary Rules”, Parker introduces pop-up rules which are different from traditional guidelines because they apply only to specific situations in order to encourage broad participation.

In the fifth chapter, Parker talks about how to start a meeting. She says that you should not give out logistical information first or general introductions. Instead, she suggests starting with an activity that encapsulates the purpose of the gathering and then giving out logistical information second. In Chapter 6, Parker talks about her 15 Toasts technique for gatherings where participants share honest personal insights on a theme relevant to the event’s purpose.

Parker argues that controversy is not always a bad thing. In fact, it can be useful when you’re trying to solve an issue or resolve a problem. He admits that this isn’t appropriate in every situation, but for those who are trying to achieve something meaningful, it’s important to embrace conflict and debate. Parker also says that ending a gathering carefully is just as important as starting one with intention. It’s the last chance to affirm your purpose and leave people feeling inspired about what they’ve done together.

Introduction

Parker starts her book by stating that most gatherings are unsuccessful and disappointing. We tend to repeat the same strategies, but they don’t work. She argues that we should stop focusing on the stuff at meetings (PowerPoints, invitations, AV equipment etc.) and start paying attention to why people gather together in the first place. Parker asserts that if we pay attention to how a group is gathered, then it will be more successful.