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It’s important to keep track of everyone you meet with in your networking endeavors. You can do this by making a list of all the people you’ve met and then contacting them within a week. If someone asks how you are, it reinforces your connection with that person and could lead to something great down the line.

Relationships are important to us. We need them in our lives, especially friends and family. Without relationships, life would be pretty tough. Humans are social animals after all. So what makes you like someone? And how likable are you? This article will introduce the eleven rules of likability that will help you have meaningful relationships: authenticity, self-image, perception, energy, curiosity, listening skills, similarity between two people’s personalities or interests (similarity), mood memory (how a person feels about another person because of previous interactions), familiarity with a person or place (familiarity), giving without expecting anything back from the other person and patience with others when they’re not being nice to you.

In this article, you will learn why it’s a bad idea to try and win people over when networking; what makes up a good question; and why it is difficult to be yourself around people you dislike.

Big Idea #1: If you want to be liked, focus on being honest and connecting with others.

Most people depend on their relationships in life. This is true whether they are professional or personal. Relationships support and connect us all, so how do we make new connections? It’s simply liking someone and getting him to like you back.

When you’re networking, try to recognize what’s likable about the other person as well as yourself. Find out what’s likable about others by asking questions and then listening actively.

Although likability is subjective, there are some basic principles that most people agree upon. These can be boiled down to eleven laws of likability that we’re going to go into in detail now.

Before we start, it’s important to keep in mind that networking is about wanting to connect with others. The goal isn’t just to achieve a particular result, but rather the desire to connect with others. Some people react negatively to the word networking and think of it as something they have do win over other people.

Therefore, if networking is a chore to you, it’s hard to find the motivation to do it. It seems that people believe that they should have a specific objective in mind when beginning a relationship. Instead of thinking about takeaways, you should focus on connecting with people and making yourself likable.

Big Idea #2: To be likable, you should be yourself and not judge others.

Everyone has different personalities, but being authentic is the same for everyone. It means to be true to yourself and your values. How can you tell if you’re being authentic?

One way to tell whether someone is authentic or inauthentic is by gauging your own feelings. If you feel awkward, then the person probably isn’t being authentic. You should also notice that when a person is being genuine, it feels natural and normal; whereas if they’re not being genuine, that feeling won’t come naturally for them and will make them uncomfortable.

When you’re under pressure to act a certain way, it can be hard to show your true self. This is because you have to wear a mask in order to pretend that you like the person or situation.

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“I don’t like this person, but I’m trying to be nice” or “This situation makes me feel uncomfortable, but I don’t know what to do about it.” In these situations, people tend to hide their true feelings by acting overly polite.