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Introduction
People search for love, but few find it. The problem is that most people don’t know what they should be looking for in a partner and end up looking at the wrong places or with the wrong person.
In order to find more love, we need a better understanding of what it is and why it’s important. We can do this by defining love in a way that makes sense for our lives and using that definition to understand the importance of love.
The Problems With Love
Everyone wants love. People have different ways of finding it, including downloading dating apps and recommitting to their marriage. Much of human behavior is wrapped up in our desire for love.
Unfortunately, most of the narrative in our culture is about how we don’t have enough love. We’re told that people are codependent and they stay together for their children. Our parents get divorced and tell us it was because they didn’t really love each other. There’s a rise in white supremacist violence like what happened with Charlottesville, Virginia. Religions claim to be grounded in love but actually use their power to oppress others such as LGBTQ people or women who want abortions. And then there’s your closest friend growing increasingly distant from you when you need them most—that hurts the worst!
Sometimes the failures of love might cause you to seek out relationships that are not healthy. You might fall back in with problematic partners or fall into old patterns with your parents. These indulgences feel good, but they never offer the loving nourishment that your innermost self seeks.
Love is a powerful and important emotion. It’s also something that many people crave, but can’t find. The absence of love makes us want it even more. In spite of the pain we experience in failed relationships or when betrayed by someone we loved, most people still hope to find love again. If you change your definition of what love really means and reflect on how you’ve experienced it in your life so far, then you’ll be able to increase the amount of love in your life and feel its transformative power as well.
Love’s Definitions
Love is a very difficult thing to understand because we’re not sure what it is. We can’t find something when we don’t know what it looks like or how to describe it. It might be easier if our culture could figure out the definition of love and explain it well enough for us to comprehend.
Many people think that love is a feeling, but it’s actually much more than that. It’s an experience of meeting someone with whom you instantly click and the overwhelming attraction that makes you think about them all the time.
Love is such an important part of life. However, there’s a big difference between the feelings of love and the actions of love. The feeling might not last forever, but real love comes from your commitments to actions even when you don’t feel like it anymore. Real love means that you still go to your spouse’s comic convention with them even though you’re not into comics yourself. It means that you help take care of your in-laws because they’re family and blood is thicker than water (even if they are conservative). Real love also means being respectful about how someone has hurt your feelings instead of holding onto resentment or anger toward them for too long. Real love also requires taking better care of yourself by going to therapy sessions regularly so that everything works out well in the end.
Peck believes that love is the act of extending yourself for another person to grow spiritually. This definition emphasizes choice and will over exciting emotions. Peck suggests that real love requires action, not just attraction or chemistry. You might feel a connection with someone, but if you don’t take action, your relationship won’t flourish.
