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Introduction

Some people are passive and try to please others. They worry about what other people think of them. If you avoid conflict, want approval from others, or believe that being nice will make you happy in the long run, then you might be a Nice Guy—and it’s time to stop believing that myth.

When you’re a nice guy, it’s hard to get your needs met because you’re trying so hard not to be selfish. You end up being resentful and angry.

Maybe you’ve experienced this: You do everything right, but still feel frustrated. The truth is that you get angry because you know that no one notices what you need or appreciates your efforts. Instead of getting what they want from you, people seem to take advantage of your generosity and expect things from you without thinking about how it affects them.

It’s time to break free from Nice Guy Syndrome. Within this summary, you can learn how to identify your needs and get them met, as well as feel more powerful and confident. Not only that, but you will embrace your masculinity and start having more satisfying romantic relationships. You don’t have to pretend to be someone else in order for people respect you or for yourself. It’s time to live up to your potential.

The Nice Guy Syndrome

Meet Jason. He’s a nice guy who tries to make his family happy, but he has one major problem: he and his wife haven’t had sex in months. Whenever he helps with the children or does chores around the house, she finds fault with how he does things. He longs to connect sexually with her, but she just isn’t interested — and it leaves him feeling unloved and unappreciated.

Do you relate to this? Maybe you’re always trying to please others, or maybe you don’t get as much as you give. You might also try so hard to be good that sometimes it’s a problem. Maybe there are things about yourself that other people won’t like if they knew them, and maybe your goal is to avoid conflict in the family or at work. You might believe that being generous means that you’re good, and above all else, your goal is not to disappoint anyone.

Like Jason, you might have trouble communicating your needs or making them a priority because you believe that doing so would make you selfish. Perhaps you make your partner’s needs the center of attention because if she’s happy then she’ll be more receptive to what you want. The problem is that it just keeps getting worse and worse for both of you.

The author argues that the Nice Guy Syndrome is a coping mechanism. People who do not know how to deal with their feelings repress them, conceal them, and manipulate others in order to get what they want. This creates problems in relationships and makes people feel isolated from society. The solution is to challenge the core belief of being only worthy of love if you are nice enough by throwing it out the window so that you can develop healthy habits such as honesty, openness about your feelings, and confronting issues head on instead of avoiding conflict.

Integrating the unpleasant aspects of ourselves can be difficult, but it’s essential for a healthy psyche. We have desires, power, assertiveness and courage that might make us less “nice” sometimes. However, we are not monsters just because we’re not nice all the time. It is possible to integrate these qualities in a way that makes us nurturing and giving while still setting boundaries and taking responsibility for our needs as well as being comfortable with our strengths.

Learn to Please the Only Person Who Matters

If you’re a Nice Guy, then breaking free from it will involve changing your perspective. This includes how you behave, interact with others and accept yourself. It might even impact your career because you’ll no longer need to seek external validation from others.